Help Me Dr Lwazi - Can Bedroom Toys Ruin Your Relationship!

Dear Dr Lwazi,

I am a 24-year-old Zimbabwean man living in Canada, my Canadian girlfriend has been getting more and more into sex. When I first met her, she was kind of shy, not too sexual.

The longer we've been together, the more she  wants to be more experimental.

Now she wants to get bedroom toys and use them.

She's changing so fast, and I don't know what to do about it.

Will her using bedroom toys make her think I'm not as good of a lover or lead her to cheating or ending our relationship?

- Nhamo

Dear Nhamo

Although this might not be part of the Zimbabwean culture I've never come across any information or research that suggests women have left men because of their bedroom toys. Usually women leave men for reasons other than not being battery-operated.

It sounds like your girlfriend is expanding her sexual horizons yet you feel like you are being left out.

My advice to you will be to talk to her about how you feel about this whole issue. Suggest to her not to use the toys in your absence, so in a way only play with the toys together.

Remember a great lover is one who helps facilitate pleasure for their partner, not inhibit it

Hope this will work out.

Dr Lwazi

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