Auntie Noe - 'I want to settle down but she wants a career first'

Auntie Noe: I am 23 years old, and am a teacher by profession. I am in love with a 19 year old girl. We love each other, we pay each other visits, and we do not have any problem yet so far. However be that as it may, my problem is, I want to settle down, that is by marrying her. She however responds negatively to m request, citing that she wanna have a professional course before getting married. Sometymz we end up being angry at each other, she ends up saying its better u gotta somebody, coz it seems like I'm delaying you. I love her, pliz help me, how can i convince her that we get married. ########## Worried ########

Auntie Noe's Response

Inzima leyi coz its obviously not wise to "convince" someone to marry you. She has to marry you when she feels ready.

You have to be grateful to have a girlfriend like that... a woman who knows what she wants in life..a woman who thinks ahead...a woman who's career oriented.

She really is the type to marry and really is worth the wait.

Are you determined to marry her because you fear that you might lose her or its for other reasons, because I believe there are many other ways to show commitment than marriage e.g: courtship, getting to know each other and supporting each other's dreams.

If she's really yours the wisest thing to do is to wait till she's ready.