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29 Jan 2015 at 18:33hrs | Views
An article titled 'WHY YOU MUST NOT MARRY ANY ZIMBABWE WOMAN WHO IS OLDER THAN 25' has caused some consternation online with people lashing at the author of the article. The article evokes intense emotional responses. Some commentators said the author is desperately seeking attention.

Below is the article and comments regarding the article.

I realized I could never devote myself, as a faithful husband, to a woman who wasted the prettiest years of her life before she met me.

If you meet your wife when she's older than around 23 or 24:

You are eating someone else's cold leftovers, then doing their dishes.

You are showing up to a party after everyone has left and cleaning up after them.

You are getting into a taxi and paying the fare of the person who got out before you.

You are taking the nearly expired milk to the grocery store counter and offering to pay double for it.

You are paying the Manufacturer Suggested Retail Price for a used car.

You are letting someone sext with your girl, then paying his phone bill for him.

Your friend enjoys sex with a prostitute, then after he enjoys the fruits you pay the bill and get throw in jail for solicitation.

You are part of a street fight where a guy gets a few good punches in, and the opponent punches YOU for retaliation, not him.

You are paying for someone's credit card bill full of reckless spending and partying that you never got to enjoy.

You are outbidding everyone on an eBay product by thousands of dollars. You are trying to unclog somebody else's clogged toilet.

You are watching somebody shake a hornets nest, then getting stung as he runs away unscathed.

You see someone chug a beer, then drink the bitter teaspoon of ass beer at the bottom of the can.

You are letting someone eat all the creme filling from a box of Oreos, then pay full price for the bland chocolate wafers.

A girl who refuses to get married young is offering a raw deal. She is vastly overvaluing her product, and undervaluing your time and money.

Marriage only makes sense for a man when a girl's prime years of beauty and fertility are upfront payment for a lifetime of loving masculine support. Men rationally know this.

Is it any wonder, then, that as females are delaying marriage longer, they are finding less willing men?

Youthful arrogance is the yellow brick road to spinsterhood.


This is an attention seeking author desperately seeking attention! Hameno akakuraml over 25 lolest Hilarious. The great news is no one will force you to marry who you don't to. If 25 is your cut off age good for you. You know what you want. I've been a brides m£ about 3 times (Zimbo couples) and the brides ages ranged from 22 to 39 so that shows t Zimbabwean Mens preference is as diverse as the men themselves!

@Zva, thank u for labelling this monster appropriately, such a nerve. Quote WILL GET MARRIED WHEN I WANT..." No force, and the older, the bette: anyway,the available men beyond that are widowers and divorcees, so what fuss???????

Utter rubbish. The ramblings of a fool. The divorce rate in Zimbabwe for people who m in their early 20s is shocking because the regret is so high. Many young couples realise their thirties that they made a terrible mistake.... That they should have "gone around world twice" so to speak before choosing a life long partner. And once the children come unfortunately you can not swallow them back. They are there to stay. And as a woman, expected to stay at home while the block goes to "amainini" who is 21. So I say to all wc out there, take your time, have a bucket list and go through it before you settle down to of regret and men like this degenerate.

This a is just so mean,

The problem with us Zimbabwean men we believe women are objects or acce from it. They are our equal humans. Why didn't you measure men using the Please come to western world then you know how far you are lost. The only 1 makes you have all that stupid mind is household income. Here men and wo income. You leave her and she will have far better life that she had with you without their women are so valueless kutoita sedzisisimo. My first experience with liberal girls was so mind opening. A group of friend and the next day one of the girls came to me boasting that 'last night she sle and so, yeh! I got him, with all his big headed personality.' I was so surprise from a girl. But after that I reflected on how men does the same and there is wrong with it. I realised that the game has changed and from then I have be running away from being done by girls, kkkkk

paonei if only more men wud see things the way you do, th article have been penned in th first place

Johnso weku Mbare
Very stupid article and a very weird way of thinking. From which planet is this zombie coming from ?

it sounds mean, and expressed a bit arrogantly, but u cant deny the writer has a point, several good points actually, i agree with him that a woman who is past her prime has 'mileage' on her biological clock, she wasnt celibate either, so as a man, why do i have t dick number 49 tasting your honeypot, after actually marrying you, when the other 48 for free? in this day of women empowerment and bla blah, women can keep telling then they want to do things and sleep around as a right before they marry, but as a man my reason for marrying is exactly the same with that of my grandfather a 100 years back, should i be cleaning at an afterparty i ddnt enjoy?
obviously women get offended and old single women will complain the most here, but it what were u doing in ur prime? your season is over!

Why do you sound so angry like the author. If you want a v-rgin, find one no stopping you. Why try to insult and berate women who are over 25? You are there are a million more where you came from who don't think like you. I ba cakes for a living and business is booming from clients of all ages.

angry??? really? keep baking them cakes, i hope u get invited to c over 35 yourself? i bet! and single, ooouch....

Don't like to be called out for how you are coming acroi Your post sounds very bitter, reread it and it will becoi About my age and marital status, keep betting all you obligation whatsoever to disclose that to you, in the sa no obligation whatsoever to marry a 25 and beyond. Fi without trying insult other people because in the end ] us more about you than the people you are trying to d< simple!

pandinetsa une shavi chete iwe

Chinonetsa ndechekuti varume vanofunga kuti havapfuure prime but zvaka Vanoto sleep around ndovarikutochata nemafuza akaita semi who get a kicl insulting women on social media. Hapana asingachembere and hapana asir Get over your issues nevakadzi vamuinawo in your lives and musaratidze z venting on social media, sies man.

touche? i bet u r single and desperate!!! i am a bachelor sana, anc your type either, too much buggage, rrorwai nanaRazaro waikud^ haibo!

ka kutu kemunhu iwe pandinetsa


Vee Love
A factless and bitter author! Mxm. N facts at all. All experiences are unique too bad yo was fateful

Dont be so bitter people, you 11 expose yourself.
1.    Marriage is much more than just the few years of youthful vigour of early 20s. I dout the writer is married, if he is, he must be recently married.
2.    Most ladies want to get married young but guys just don't propose. Just want bangs.
3.    To those guys & ladies that push career above everything else, then don't sleep aroui reserve your best for marriage.
4.    Guys too get wasted...getting married with pot bellies, late 30s ailments & too many memories of past sexpriences.
5.    Bottom line    be fair to each other boys & girls. Don't take advantage.

much fair comment, thanx!!

nxaaaaa if u r so level headed why ddnt u contribute meaningful] the first place....ka KUTUI repeat

Shame on you!
i agree with the ladies here...this is a very stupid article
if you are marrying a woman under are marrying a girl who doesnt know wha wants
you are marrying a girl who has a 99% of cheating on you you are marrying a girl who will treat you like S**T
i know a lot of couples who got married when the wife was too young... and believe me £
those marriages are now on the rocks, with some already divorced.
get your facts right
age doesnt mean anything
people have found love in their 40s...50s...60s...but the 30s are the best
you talk about having someone's vormit or left overs...well clearly you know nothing at
WOMEN, LIFE and let me stress again WOMEN!!!!!!!

obviously neither do u. finding love isnt the debate here, its about cleaning £ 25 is too young for marriage? but what - 40? what are u - a dinosaur? wish when u marry the 50yr old woman...

Shame on you!
so your point is that every woman above 25 is a whore? or has sle people that they are used goods? maybe the ones you have met. bi who run in my circle are not going around sleeping with every gu the way, i am not a dinasaur, am depending my older sisters who around, who are not used goods...who to me are waiting to meet 1 probable had an experience with a woman who was off 1 being with her was like doing it with a tin!

i just liked on the part u said "age is nothing" you can have somel who is ovi treats u like s**t so either u get married married in ur 20s or 40s hazvina b; chakakosha is to get married not by mistake but nekunzwakuda kuroora. m by chance or by accident.

Who ever wrote this article is ignorant. Women and men are now losing their v*rginity younger ages than that. Times have moved on and so has society. There's no such thing overs because the same principles also apply to men . Woman marrying a man whose h before are also marrying left overs! Who ever wrote this must be a son or daughter of a and is probably married to a left over him or herself! His or her kids are probably left o aswell! They also need to mature because even a 10 year old can come up with a better
analysis than this. But then hatisi tese taigona muchikoro.

a man can sire kids at 80! a woman is lucky to be pregnant at 45. so yes a w under biological pressure to do certain things at a certain age. you are very iwewe wacho - u failed to understand the leftover concept.
and who spoke about v*rginity? pataurwa zera. go back to school please.

You mention women's pressure based on your own assumptions.) right mind wants to be having children beyond 45? What youre fs that life is a very individual journey. Why is that difficult for you want kids at 20 go ahead and those who want to have kids later c Perhaps what you need to worry about is your need to control woi
needs to reproduce before 45'. Some people actually opt to just ad about biological timelines, seeing that there are enough aids orpl anyway. Focus on your own life and trying to find that 'v*rgin' you women be!! I we chirikumbokunetsa chii?


Only a stupid uneducated fool can come up with this nonsense. Are you not someone's ] over too? Men put such pressure on women to marry young and then they cheat on the] Remember the so called small houses.

emeka collins
The writer is very sick,maybe a woman dumped him and the hatred came into him

I think the writer has never actually met a woman. Probably he is nearly 50 and wants to blame women for his short comings

zahara lee
Ignorant prick!!!

james matheson
Maybe we really need to abolish lobola. The practice leads to these misconceptions!!

I find it interestingly offensive that stupid people like this guy want to sleep around for with the very same under 25s they will later despise yet when they now want to settle i they want a v*rgin! Please! Shut up and take a sit!!!

i am disgusted by this man, obviously a man, begotten by a woman who does not respe< women, if i choose to remain single, then that's my business, why r your feathers rufflei in any case people have a myriad of reasons why they didn't get married "BEFORE 25" thirty one, single, loving it and am getting married and giving my man the best years c life, big up to all the ladies who waited for their prince charming and didn't let people t make them rush into early marriages..

I can't believe I just read this article..

@nomathamsaqua hauchatororwe iwewe.

Not all Zimbabweans were raised with the belief that kurorwa is end all". I believe in a good quality of life. Kurorwa doesn't necces anything. Vanhu vanochata everyday and equally vanhu vanoran You've got to maximise your life in every way possible and know t responsible for your happiness in this life is you! Everything else beautiful house, career, husband and children (children: whether adopted) are the cherry on top, but your happiness begins with y< happy with whatever you have, its enough for you. Life is not a di

Idiot author..

Quite extreme buh in there lies a lot of truth! You found the key my friend. The Bible e says marry your daughters young, so 1 think you have a valid point though its quite see to ignorant men and women who live in the twilight of vain imagination.

This is rubbish and sexism why would you even publish this kind toxic thoughts and p( people. Nxa, Why are you so possessive and think man own girls...we need to deal with mentality. The person who wrote this is a monster and must be hold accountable and d with for such dire and sexist ideas

Ronald Mudekunye
The most stupid and backward post I ever wasted my time on.

Honesti Hjmsk Masuka
I thought your issue was gon be about payment,that's where I find a problem with zimbabwean/African marriage,lobola lobola that's not worth it and its daylight robbery zvimwe zvese zvana 25 hazvina basa izvo chero 45 anorooreka kana uchimuda.

Simphz BlaQstone
They guy is some how true,yet so wrong after all you cut your age of marriage then it happens 5 years latter,does that make u a rejected milk?my point is that,we marry the heart not the physical body,that's just a cherry on top

Tannia N'yasha Ngwena
Hameno shuwa. Just because one can post articles online and acquire a following, it does not mean one has anything profound worth sharing!! Embarrassed for this author!!

Alfred Thamsanqa Ncube
Its amazing how this article evokes such intense emotional responses. Is it too close to the bone? Relax respondents, no one is on trial, its just an article end of day.

Tawonga Sambara
Talking from experience oh shame u just got the wrong one boet,hey the thruth

Patricia Chenayi Nyandoro
Hog wash!!! So stupid! So backward! Who ever wrote this is an absolute moron!

Bulek Biyoutey
Who is this ignorant stupid person

Doreen Dee Usher
Stupid author seeking attention. Grow up you fool.

Sija Ntando Mafu

Andy Chiguvare
nxa hogwash and not valid

Shahnaaz Ismail Ramajan

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