A chat with Auntie Noe - How to Get Your Boyfriend Back

Do you still find yourself subconsciously picking up all the pieces of shattered memories and pulling through all the strings that could link you back with him?

Whatever busted our cherished relationships, many of us, women, remain locked up in the past that we want to blow life to all the images that are flashing in our heads and turn them into reality.

Whatever our motives are in winning our men back, we can always resolve to live our lives in ways that will both favor our victory in deliberately getting our men back and our success in purposely improving ourselves that may unintentionally lead them back to us.

Now let's get rolling ...

1. One can have a solid kick off by having a clear and resolute decision of loving oneself first.

Men are generally aware that only when one is capable of loving herself enough, that she is able to love others well.

A woman who values and respects oneself will not allow herself to fall into wrongdoings that might affect the relationship. She will commit herself to continuous growth - discovering what she can do and how she can do those best - for her to have a good self-image, preventing her to feel insecure and jealous.

A woman who loves herself is naturally caring, understanding, sympathetic, and supportive because she knows what love truly is and how it is to be loved.

2. Properly send your man signals that you have already totally accepted the breakup even though the reality is otherwise.

Making your man believe that you have already moved on usually hits his ego and stirs him to think whether he is your loss or you are his loss. Showing no desperation in winning him back conversely makes him desperate to come back to prove his worth.

Also, older men no longer find women who are possessive and obsessive cute and lovable. Mature men appreciate women who can be their partner rather than their pet.

3. It pays to always look your best - internally and externally. Maintaining inner and outer beauty will, in no way, drive your man away.

Take advantage of how well you know him. Put on a dress that has the color and style he likes; set your hair in ways he finds sexy; and use the perfume you were using to sweep him back to the times when you were still together.

Having a girlfriend with a good heart and a prudent mind is nothing but trophy for most men.

Any ex-boyfriend couldn't help but snivel on the sight of a beautiful woman with a golden heart being admired and respected by other men.

4. Maintain warm relationships with your man's friends and family members.

Being warm with his crowd usually results to complimentary award-winning advertisement on how good you are as a friend and a family member.

Being nice with his clique shows how diplomatic you are in dealing with issues. He may also perceive you as a good partner in both good and not-so-good times.

5. Always be yourself.

Being the woman that you really are can help rekindle old flame. Who you truly are was the reason why he became attracted to you. Maybe it's the perfect time to look at yourself and retrospect. Have you changed a lot? Are the changes because of improvement or of worsening?

While doing all these, you are also helping yourself become the esteemed woman you need to be whether he comes back to your or not. If he comes back, it means you are really wired and meant for each other. If he doesn't, then rejoice because you have already started spreading your wings and are now more prepared to take off and soar to the vast heavens of possibilities and opportunities for growth and successes.

Nobuhle Virgie (Auntie Noe) is our weekly lifestyle and relationship columnist. If you have any relationship or lifestyle issues that you need to be assisted on email her at auntienoe@bulawayo24.com or send us a whatsapp (+44 750 1941957) message and Auntie Noe will try by all means to help you on the matter.