Opinion / Letters
How dare she cheat on me
28 Dec 2010 at 17:55hrs | Views
Hello,
I used to date this 22-year-old girl in Gwanda for two years while working and studying in South Africa, and we could only manage to see each other once a year.
Still, I developed a special bond with her family and even paid for her university fees, ready for her to join me here. Now, here's the big deal: I recently travelled to Gwanda to visit our families, but the night before my departure back, she abruptly changed her moods and accused me of cheating on her.
I drove to SA hoping to return and talk over the issue, only to realise a few weeks later that she was pregnant with a man who had pretended to be a wealthy businessman in the city, and who has also conned her family out of a tidy sum of money.
I truly loved and respected this girl, but now I don't trust her anymore. She has not even apologised despite there being solid evidence that she has been cheating on me, and I am concerned that she might end up a single mother with no good job to take care of herself. Manqoba.
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Hi Manqoba,
Distant relationships are hard to maintain, but, having said that, I would like to add that it is saddening that your girlfriend refused to own up to the fact that she was pregnant.
I can only guess that she could be thoroughly embarrassed for her actions. Keep in mind that this kind of embarrassment can lead to anger, depression, suicidal thoughts, wanting to abort or a desire to run away from home.
Since she has not confessed, there are two options here: you wish her well; or you discuss with the parents how you can assist.
If I were you, I would keep marriage away from such agenda until I discover the person I am really dealing with.
However, the choice is yours. But let that choice be based on your splendid heart of love and compassion.
I used to date this 22-year-old girl in Gwanda for two years while working and studying in South Africa, and we could only manage to see each other once a year.
Still, I developed a special bond with her family and even paid for her university fees, ready for her to join me here. Now, here's the big deal: I recently travelled to Gwanda to visit our families, but the night before my departure back, she abruptly changed her moods and accused me of cheating on her.
I drove to SA hoping to return and talk over the issue, only to realise a few weeks later that she was pregnant with a man who had pretended to be a wealthy businessman in the city, and who has also conned her family out of a tidy sum of money.
I truly loved and respected this girl, but now I don't trust her anymore. She has not even apologised despite there being solid evidence that she has been cheating on me, and I am concerned that she might end up a single mother with no good job to take care of herself. Manqoba.
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Hi Manqoba,
Distant relationships are hard to maintain, but, having said that, I would like to add that it is saddening that your girlfriend refused to own up to the fact that she was pregnant.
I can only guess that she could be thoroughly embarrassed for her actions. Keep in mind that this kind of embarrassment can lead to anger, depression, suicidal thoughts, wanting to abort or a desire to run away from home.
Since she has not confessed, there are two options here: you wish her well; or you discuss with the parents how you can assist.
If I were you, I would keep marriage away from such agenda until I discover the person I am really dealing with.
However, the choice is yours. But let that choice be based on your splendid heart of love and compassion.
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