Opinion / Columnist
The truth about cheating!
17 Feb 2015 at 22:28hrs | Views
Cheaters come up with a lot of excuses for their dishonest ways.
They often blame their partners, but if they're not happy with them, why not just leave?
Having your heart broken and then moving on is better than being lied to for years.
But why do people really cheat?
The list of reasons is as long as the list of excuses.
WebMD mentions revenge, boredom, the thrill of sex with someone new and sexual addiction as some of the reasons.
It says that men and women usually have different reasons for cheating.
Men usually want more sex or attention, while women are looking for an emotional connection.
Relationship expert Helen Fisher told the wbsite that men are less likely to fall in love with their nyatsi than a woman is with her lover.
Women usually have an emotional connection with their lover and are more likely to have an affair because they're lonely.
Research in America has revealed some interesting things about cheating.
According to Psychology Today, 90% of Americans believe that cheating is unacceptable, but between 30% and 40% of people do it.
The report says that some people are more likely to cheat than others. These include men and those with less personalities that make them care less about how others feel and about being a nice person.
Those who are very religious and are very conservative in their political views are less likely than other people to cheat, because of their values.
But even if someone doesn't have the sort of personality cheaters usually do, and even if they don't have problems with their relationship, they could still cheat in the right situation.
"Spending time in settings with many attractive people can make cheating more likely," the website says.
It also says that people who have jobs where they have to touch a lot of people, have personal discussions or have a lot of one-on-one time with other people are more likely to have an affair.
When there are many more men or many more women in a work environment, the chances of cheating happening also go up.
The bottom line is that cheating is here to stay. There's no way of knowing who is going to turn out to be a cheater.
The sad truth is that you can't stop someone else from cheating, but you can stop yourself.
Be a part of the solution, not a part of the problem!
They often blame their partners, but if they're not happy with them, why not just leave?
Having your heart broken and then moving on is better than being lied to for years.
But why do people really cheat?
The list of reasons is as long as the list of excuses.
WebMD mentions revenge, boredom, the thrill of sex with someone new and sexual addiction as some of the reasons.
It says that men and women usually have different reasons for cheating.
Men usually want more sex or attention, while women are looking for an emotional connection.
Relationship expert Helen Fisher told the wbsite that men are less likely to fall in love with their nyatsi than a woman is with her lover.
Women usually have an emotional connection with their lover and are more likely to have an affair because they're lonely.
According to Psychology Today, 90% of Americans believe that cheating is unacceptable, but between 30% and 40% of people do it.
The report says that some people are more likely to cheat than others. These include men and those with less personalities that make them care less about how others feel and about being a nice person.
Those who are very religious and are very conservative in their political views are less likely than other people to cheat, because of their values.
But even if someone doesn't have the sort of personality cheaters usually do, and even if they don't have problems with their relationship, they could still cheat in the right situation.
"Spending time in settings with many attractive people can make cheating more likely," the website says.
It also says that people who have jobs where they have to touch a lot of people, have personal discussions or have a lot of one-on-one time with other people are more likely to have an affair.
When there are many more men or many more women in a work environment, the chances of cheating happening also go up.
The bottom line is that cheating is here to stay. There's no way of knowing who is going to turn out to be a cheater.
The sad truth is that you can't stop someone else from cheating, but you can stop yourself.
Be a part of the solution, not a part of the problem!
Source - dailysun
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